Many times in life, we have choices, and often instead of prioritizing those choices, we fall into the trap of trying to do everything at the same time. I believe that the thing that matters the most is whether or not you will be happy with that choice. Whether or not it fulfills a deeper purpose, a vision that you have about your life. And if that happiness does not ensure, then it’s time to go back to the drawing board; re-figure and rearrange your life the way it makes you happy. Then the choice becomes simpler, are you satisfied? And will this misery that I am about to face at the moment will eventually make me feel proud of myself? Yes or No
One of my favorite quotes ever is:
“Nothing in life is as important as you think it is, while you are thinking about it “
Daniel Kahneman, Thinking Fast and Slow
The inevitability of life & the choices we make
Often we find ourselves at a crossroads where we have to choose, and regardless of where that choice leads us, the outcome at the end would be inevitable. It’s a paradox. You cannot know what the other option would have yielded, as it is a nonevent that never existed in the first place. You have made your choice. And now you have to face the consequences of that choice, either good or bad. But there is a problem with being human. That is, we are concerned mostly about the nonevent and worry about it the most. We cannot possibly go back in time and change our choices, and yet we cannot help but think about what could have been, it’s fundamental human nature.
But everything that you do in life has some opportunity cost associated with it. So, the thing that you think is “the most important thing” may not be the most important in your life after five years. Or rather, the choices that you make, if it takes a wrong turn, later on, become a good story to tell or becomes a lesson in life to learn.
So it doesn’t matter how good or bad things turn out. You can always revisit your decisions, learn from them, and aspire to do better. Crawl through the pain and hardship and come out the other end stronger than ever before. Because good things and bad things in life are cyclical, one cannot exist without the other. So embrace the pain and the hurt you feel right now because someday it will all be an excellent story to tell. Because the greatest stories in the world always seem to have an element of pain, misery, and hardship.